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BDSM Spanking Tips for Beginners

Many individuals have attempted spanking in the bedroom (both giving and receiving) without giving much consideration to the whys and hows of it; nevertheless, when it comes to sensual spanking, it pays not to adopt a slap-dash approach. Here are some helpful hints for novices who wish to spank themselves or their spouse!

What Is It About Spanking That Makes It Feel So Good?

A clever bottom may be delightful to give and receive during sex for both mental and physical reasons. Psychologically, many of us are drawn to kinks that are a little bad and forbidden, and the thought of getting spanked (which is prohibited) for being naughty or taboo is just a meta way of thinking about this specific sexual activity.

Spanking is one of the simplest methods to get into D/s power dynamics and kinky role play: all you need is a willing hand and bottom, as well as some momentum. Oh, and aim; during impact play, the aim is crucial, but we’ll get to that later.

The release of dopamine, which makes us joyful and shows up when we feel pain, is the reason why the physical feeling may be so wonderful during sex. This leads to that delicate line of something ‘hurting so good’ that John Cougar Mellencamp sang about.

Furthermore, spanking someone’s rear is near the bodily equipment we use during intercourse. A lot of blood flows through these areas during sex and foreplay, and a forceful smack to the derriere stimulates blood flow and excitement.

The Rump’s Guideline

In addition to the typical chats about wishes, safe words, and limits that we know all of you have with your partner since you’re amazing people, there are some basic spanking rules and etiquette to follow to ensure that everyone involved stays slap-happy:

  • Strikes should target the lower (fattier) region of the butt cheeks and upper thighs.
  • After each spank, give the slapped region a little caress (this isn’t only about being sensitive when tenderizing; rotating between light and soft sensations during play makes for enjoyable teasing and keeps the spankee from becoming numb).
  • If you don’t have permission, don’t smack hard enough to leave a handprint.
  • Remove any jewelry, including rings, bracelets, watches, and that Fitbit you got for Christmas but haven’t worn.

Your Map of Slap

To clarify, it’s preferable to stay to the buttocks and thighs as a novice, as even light ‘love taps’ to the genitals are reserved for skilled players.

When it comes to slapping someone on the bottom, where they want to be slapped varies from person to person, which is why communication is crucial. Stick to the bottom half of a butt if you were to bisect it horizontally (that is, perpendicular to the crack), which is the part you would cup with your hand if giving your loved one a friendly squeeze.

Never spank a person near their spine or tailbone. Any type of impact play near the spine, kidneys, or other essential organs is uncomfortable and highly hazardous.

Tapes Advice

Position yourself such that the spanker has a lot of range of motion and a clear vision. The greatest positions for spanking are for the spankee to be on all fours with the spanker behind them, or for the spanker to sit on the edge of the bed with their partner lying stomach down over the spanker’s lap. A cushion can be placed under the stomach to support up the recipient’s hips and give some shock absorption for the spank recipient.

Begin gently. Before commencing, start with a delicate bottom massage and mild tickling of their butt cheeks to create anticipation for the first hit, and the jolt from soft to stinging will have their entire attention.

Accouterments for Ass-Slapping

While most of us start with our hands when it comes to sensual spanking, it doesn’t mean you have to go on to anything else; each instrument has its own set of benefits, drawbacks, and sensations that might be preferred by either partner.

Your Hand

Β Is Accurate, Free, and Capable of Changing the Feeling Depending on How You Cup Your Hand

Paddles

Paddles (or ‘hairbrushes*’ for the thrifty) come in a variety of materials such as wood, metal, or leather to alter the sensations, provide a considerably more aggressive smack than the hand, and are less stingy than whips. Before employing a paddle, it’s better to start a spanking session with the hand and build up tension.

Floggers & Whips

Whips and floggers come in a variety of lengths, forms, and materials, each with its sting. If you’re not sure, there are plenty of web resources for all types of sensations, and testing them out is half the fun!